“A marriage made in heaven is one where a man and a woman
become more richly themselves together than the chances are either of them could ever have managed to become alone.”
~ Frederick Buechner
I had great intentions of getting this post out yesterday, and through the overpowering pull of procrastination, I realized as I lay in bed last night….pondering over my wonderful day, that I had forgotten!
Thirty years ago last night, on a particularly hot and steamy summer’s eve, I married my college sweetheart. Especially now that I have had the pleasure of witnessing the marriage of over 700 couples, I have come to the conclusion that getting married on the cusp of my 21st birthday, was probably a bit too young. But, no matter how many trials, set backs, triumphs and blissful moments we have celebrated together, life has been wonderful, and we have not only survived….we have thrived!
I just love the quote above, because it speaks to the truth that we all need the help and support of others to bring out the best in ourselves. In my young and inexperienced mind, (and especially when we were bracing ourselves through some bumpy terrain), I somehow tried to convince myself that maybe ‘doing it alone’ might be a better option. These thoughts would race through my mind at breakneck speed, only to be halted by the loving embrace or gentle touch of the man I love more than life itself.
If I had to narrow it down to one important lesson that have realized in thirty years with my wonderful husband, it would be to choose your battles wisely, and learn to weather the storms so that when the sun shines brightly, you can be fully present to enjoy it. Make it your mission to show your partner how much they mean to you today; through a smile, a little note, a special gift, or better yet, just by telling them!
Create yourself an incredible day!